{"id":72189,"date":"2022-06-29T09:22:00","date_gmt":"2022-06-29T13:22:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ottawahospital.on.ca\/?p=72189"},"modified":"2022-08-19T10:59:24","modified_gmt":"2022-08-19T14:59:24","slug":"how-to-talk-to-your-doctor-tips-to-make-difficult-conversations-a-little-easier","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ottawahospital.on.ca\/en\/healthy-tomorrows\/how-to-talk-to-your-doctor-tips-to-make-difficult-conversations-a-little-easier\/","title":{"rendered":"How to talk to your doctor: Tips to make difficult conversations a little easier"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Your throat is dry. Your hands are clammy. Your heart is racing. You\u2019re not about to board a rollercoaster; you\u2019re sitting quietly in your doctor\u2019s office, about to start your appointment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Talking to your doctor about your health isn\u2019t supposed to feel like this.&nbsp; Yet for many people, it does.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Alicia Hilderley knows first-hand how nerve-wracking it can be to talk to a doctor. Before her cancer diagnosis, she spoke to doctors with confidence in her role as a health-care researcher.&nbsp; But that changed when she became a patient herself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI felt very uncertain of myself,\u201d she recalls. \u201cI was nervous to bring up things that were important to me that I wasn\u2019t sure were important to my doctor.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Incomplete communication could lead to incomplete care<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Dr. Erin Keely thinks it\u2019s critical for health-care professionals to help patients like Alicia feel comfortable asking questions and sharing information. &nbsp;She is an endocrinologist at The Ottawa Hospital and a professor at the University of Ottawa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIf patients don\u2019t feel comfortable talking to us, we might not have the whole picture,\u201d she said. &nbsp;\u201cAnd if we don\u2019t have the whole picture, we might come to the wrong conclusion, and the diagnosis or the next steps might not be the right ones for the person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To Dr. Keely, good communication helps to craft a plan that aligns not just with her patients\u2019 health needs, but also with their individual priorities and values.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cEach person needs to have the confidence to provide input, because their next steps may be different from someone else with exactly the same condition depending on their priorities,\u201d she said. \u201cPlus, We don\u2019t want the visit to end with the person agreeing with a plan that isn\u2019t a good fit for them, and then not following through with the recommendations because it didn\u2019t align with their beliefs, preferences or priorities.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Tips for talking to your doctor:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>From preparing for your appointment, to bringing up taboo topics, Alicia and Dr. Keely share these tips:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Preparing for your appointment<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Think ahead about your goals. <\/strong>Do you want to learn more about your diagnosis? Your medications? What to expect in recovery? Knowing your goals before the appointment begins will help you and your doctor make the most of your time together.&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>Write down your questions<\/strong>. Writing them down means you won\u2019t have to rely on your memory in the moment. You may not get through them all in one appointment due to time constraints, so prioritizing and conveying to the doctor what\u2019s most important to you may be helpful.<\/li><li><strong>Bring a trusted person with you.<\/strong>&nbsp; Whether they are in the room with you or calling in by phone, you can choose to have a trusted person with you during your appointment.&nbsp; They can help support you, remind you of your questions and write down the doctor\u2019s answers.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Sharing information about yourself<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Ask for privacy if you need it.<\/strong> If there are several people in the room and you\u2019d rather ask your doctor a question privately, it\u2019s ok to ask others to leave for a few minutes or ask your doctor to ask them to step out.<\/li><li><strong>Ask the nurse to ask the doctor a question for you<\/strong>. Nurses tend to spend more time on units, so if you have a private question for your doctor, you can ask the nurse to ask it for you.&nbsp; Alternatively, you can ask the nurse to request one-on-one time with your doctor where you can ask it yourself.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Bringing up potentially \u201ctaboo\u201d topics<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Talk about what research you\u2019ve already done.<\/strong> There is lots of great information out there, but there\u2019s also a lot that isn\u2019t so good. By sharing what you\u2019ve learned, you can help your doctor correct any misinformation or explain why that information might not apply to your specific circumstance.<\/li><li><strong>Tell them if you\u2019ve used non-traditional or alternative options.<\/strong> Mention any non-traditional medicines or therapies you\u2019ve tried such as acupuncture or naturopathy,.&nbsp; There are lots of good options, but some options impact &nbsp;how doctors interpret things like laboratory tests or plan next steps.<\/li><li><strong>Mention your sexual history. <\/strong>In some circumstances your doctor may need to ask sensitive questions around your sexual history if it affects your most likely diagnosis or the actions you need to take. &nbsp;Please be honest about your history so that your doctor can factor that into your care.<\/li><li><strong>Disclose if you use alcohol, cannabis or other drugs<\/strong>. Cannabis and other drug use can cause symptoms that mimic other conditions, so be upfront with your doctor about current and past use.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Answering your doctor\u2019s questions<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>If you\u2019re not sure why they are asking a question, ask<\/strong>. If their question seems unrelated to your condition or situation, you can say, \u201cHelp me understand why you need to know this,\u201d and your doctor will explain.<\/li><li><strong>If you\u2019re not comfortable answering a question, tell them. <\/strong>A doctor\u2019s appointment shouldn\u2019t feel like an interrogation.<strong>&nbsp; <\/strong>It\u2019s ok to say, \u201cI\u2019m not comfortable answering that question right now.\u201d<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Finishing your appointment<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>If you aren\u2019t sure you were given all of your options, ask.<\/strong> There is often more than one way to proceed.&nbsp; If you want to learn more, you can say, \u201cI heard you say the next steps for me are X. Are there any other options?\u201d<\/li><li><strong>If you aren\u2019t sure what the next steps are, ask. <\/strong>Try summarizing what the doctor has told you.&nbsp;&nbsp; The doctor can either confirm your understanding or add more information.<\/li><li><strong>If you\u2019re expecting a follow up, be prepared<\/strong>.&nbsp; If a specialist is supposed to call you next week, have their number so you can call them in case they don\u2019t call. Don\u2019t assume everything is going to happen in the suggested timeframe.&nbsp; It\u2019s important to know who to reach out to if things don\u2019t happen as they should.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-style-default\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/www.ottawahospital.on.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Make_Difficult_conversations_with_your_doctor_easier_The_Ottawa_Hospital-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"A doctor talks to a patient who sits on an examination table\" class=\"wp-image-72192\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.ottawahospital.on.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Make_Difficult_conversations_with_your_doctor_easier_The_Ottawa_Hospital-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.ottawahospital.on.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Make_Difficult_conversations_with_your_doctor_easier_The_Ottawa_Hospital-600x400.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.ottawahospital.on.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Make_Difficult_conversations_with_your_doctor_easier_The_Ottawa_Hospital-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.ottawahospital.on.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Make_Difficult_conversations_with_your_doctor_easier_The_Ottawa_Hospital-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.ottawahospital.on.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Make_Difficult_conversations_with_your_doctor_easier_The_Ottawa_Hospital-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.ottawahospital.on.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Make_Difficult_conversations_with_your_doctor_easier_The_Ottawa_Hospital.jpg 1920w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><figcaption>Creating an effective care plan depends on open communication between a patient and their doctor.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">\u201cShare everything\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Alicia sympathizes with people who are afraid to speak up about what matters to them out of fear of being judged, but she says that all of her doctors were compassionate and took her concerns seriously. She gives this advice for people who wonder whether they should bring a concern forward to their doctor: Share everything.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIf it\u2019s important to you, it\u2019ll be important to them, so bring it up,\u201d she says.&nbsp; \u201cTell them what you\u2019re thinking or feeling so that they have a chance to help.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you ever feel nervous about talking to your doctor?  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